Blog – Sida 9 – transformerande förändring

X-mas challenge 3

Are you happy with your lover or boss?

Many friends of mine complain over their boss, he or she is doing that and not doing this… Sounds familiar?

If it would been a lover you would break up, wouldn’t you? Or at least try to solve the problem.

I once told a friend you have to make a choice, be submissive to your boss or quit.

This is your challenge to day, maybe not to quit, but think about the situation you are in, are you submissive and in true acceptance of the situation? Or do you have an inner complainer keep nagging? Is it time to move on at work or in the relationship?

X-mas challenge 2

Submissive or weak? Codewords rules!

Many people outside the BDSM community often make a similarity between weakness and submissive. We with some insights know for sure this is completely wrong.

As dominant you can’t continue play when your submissive don’t want any more, that would be rape or abuse. As submissive you are always free to use the codeword agreed upon. Is that even possible in daily life? Think if we at the workplace tomorrow would start say Yellow or Red? How would your workplace work if you start to use codewords instead of complaining?

X-mas challenge nr 1

One week ago I got the idea to write in the blog as a calendar…to open one small present each day. Yesterday my computer broke…sign?

My first gift to you is some reflections and questions.

Are you living your life like you want to live it? Do you have enough sex? Do you have sex with the one you want to have sex with? We don’t have to be that explicit, who do you want to meet today and grab a cup of coffee with?

Always when we interact in a more present and tantric way we need to know our self and our needs before we can try and play with someone else. So today try to listen to your self, coffee or tea? Sex or not? With who? Just do it, honor your self!!!

Importance of living in xtasy – life and death!!!

Sorry for not posting so much on the blog…Been busy exploring life and death. This summer I followed my mother that died from cancer. And now I am following a dear friend on the same journey. This kind of process really shows me that I am greatfull beyond words from my BDSM and tantric journey.

Learning to live and explore xtasy and deep feelings and emotions have prepared me for this. Even though you really cant prepare because every deathjourney is unique. What I do to survive in this and even learn from it is really trying to find xtasy and play with energy and God as much as I can. Trying to stay present no matter what…and expressing my gratitude for everyting that is good.

If you are curious about what I do and how I do it, try a session with me. Are you afraid of death are you afraid of life!!!

Turne

I am going on a shorter tour…Malmö and Gothenburg and are available for sessions on the 11 and the 13 of october in Göteborg and one spot left in Malmö on the 11 of oct. Contact me for more info

miniworkshop – Life in xtas!

Saturday I gave a workshop – live life more in xtas! It was just a small miniworkshop as a teaser to my workshop Pain and Pleasure. In the morning I went to the store to buy toys for the workshop, Clothpins and flywhips for everyone. I like more to play with things that are not connected to the BDSM world, to make it more undramatic. When I was supposed to pay – the cashier – ohh so many are they for spanking??? Its apparently that obvious…I didnt really answer…

Well at the center where I work – there was a nice group with curious people – wanting to explore more about this fun topic. We worked with energy, polarity…leading and following and some pain and presence training, and finished up with putting all the men in a circle – supporting each other, while the women danced around giving the a hard time with the whips. Everybody had a good time – so all people out there – play more!!!

Love/Sofia

Yes – a Dominaworkshop coming up 19th of Sept

As Dominatrix I meet many submissive men longing for their women dare to dominate them. This workshop is about that…

Get the courage to give pain but also more erotic domination. Many men find their masculine and dominant side through their feminine or submissive side, would not it be cool to meet your partner in this?

During this workshop you will get to practice to find your Domina thorough your feminine and inner power.
Through a variety of practical exercises, we appeal to Dominan in you and strengthen her.
You also get to practice and learn to spank with different tools.
We will also talk and share tips and tricks and some teaching of course.

The workshop is suitable for all sexual preferences – you dont have to dominate a man …

Sofia is used to leading groups and allways create a safe space. Said about this workshop “, she leads naturally”, “extremely instructive,” “Now I’m going home and practicing.”

Refreshments and fruit will be served during the breaks.

Price SEK 750 is paid against an invoice before the course starts.

Application by 10 Sept to info@xtas.nu – only here is not enough. Limited number of participants so do not hesitate sign up as soon as possible!

Warmly welcome // Sofia

Steam it up in the summerheat

Just a quick blogpost about how to turn up the volume on your play. How do you normaly play out of fear or love? Are you afraid of being or playing to much or to little. I think its a huge difference. How long do you dare to go, how far can you push your submissive? I just got feedback that I managed to stretch his limits and play on the edge without the play to turn into yellow or red. So how did i do that? Here are some tips how to dare to go a bit further:
1. Stay present your self, be there the whole time, thats so fucking important dont play if you cant stay present.
2. Force your sub to breath, notice every shift in the breathing and follow the rythm when you play. I always follow the breathing and read my submissive that way.
3. You also must know how strong your are your self. Every hit with the tool must be with precision. Before you give the last hit in that round you must be sure it is that hit.
4. In the beginning give a bit less than he or she wants to build trust. When there is trust you both can go as long as you want.
So do you dare to play a bit more, a bit deeper, a bit closer, a bit more intense? Steam it up in the summerheat!
//Sofia

Everybody is submissive to someone!

I have lately been experimenting with a lot of switching for my self. During the same evening and weekends going back and forth all the time. Many people in this world point out that you are a special role. As if I am dominant and You are submissive. For me its not like that there are different energies and flavours that you more or less could embrace and play with. Dance with if you dare to.

In my workshops I use to say that run as fast as u can if somebody say that they ”Are Dominant”. And I ask them about their ordinary life, their job etc. Everybody is submissive to someone. Even if u are a CEO of a big company, You report to the board and are submissive to your clients and shareholders. So take a moment and get out of the dungeon or the bedroom and think about who are You submissive to? What qualities do that person have? How do they act and how do they behave? There you have the qualities that you can use as Dominant in your BDSM play!

If you like to practice more on this, bring your partner and we can train together – I give couplesessions where I train and coach you in dominating and spanking eachother.

Enjoy the summernights, play more!//Sofia

Openess

As many of u know I am totally open with what I do. Some people like what I say and some don’t. Your kink is your kink and my kink is my kink. And I totally respect your integrity and if you like to be anonymous about your lifestyle. That’s what I like in this context. But stil I got some feedback after this interview on national TV. But as u know when u get your 5 minutes of fame – its all about to don’t stop talking….

In the future I will post some short videos here about how I see it and what I think about BDSM, TANTRA and life in general. Because for me its all a part of life I cant live without.

But till then here I am.

Have a nice presummer//Sofia